Great example of kindness shown by a high school basketball player.
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Program description from the byutv.org website: Inspired by the predicament of his own children, ex-convict Karl Winsness founded The Willy the Plumber Foundation to create college scholarships for children whose parents are incarcerated.
This evening I watched this uplifting program, which can be viewed here.
This book was recommended by a leader in attendance at last night’s Roundtable meeting on millennials.
Amazon description: “World-renowned Stanford University psychologist Carol Dweck, in decades of research on achievement and success, has discovered a truly groundbreaking idea–the power of our mindset. Dweck explains why it’s not just our abilities and talent that bring us success–but whether we approach them with a fixed or growth mindset. She makes clear why praising intelligence and ability doesn’t foster self-esteem and lead to accomplishment, but may actually jeopardize success. With the right mindset, we can motivate our kids and help them to raise their grades, as well as reach our own goals–personal and professional. Dweck reveals what all great parents, teachers, CEOs, and athletes already know: how a simple idea about the brain can create a love of learning and a resilience that is the basis of great accomplishment in every area.”
This reminds me of something I read recently in “Hillbilly Elegy”:
When my turn came, I proudly announced, “Fifty minus twenty.” The teacher gushed, and I received two pieces of candy for my foray into subtraction, a skill we’d learned only days before. A few moments later, while I beamed over my brilliance, another student announced, “Ten times three.” I had no idea what that even meant. Times? Who was this guy? The teacher was even more impressed, and my competitor triumphantly collected not two but three pieces of candy.
The teacher spoke briefly of multiplication and asked if anyone else knew such a thing existed. None of us raised a hand. For my part, I was crushed. I returned home and burst into tears. I was certain my ignorance was rooted in some failure of character. I just felt stupid. It wasn’t my fault that until that day I had never heard the word “multiplication.”
It wasn’t something I’d learned in school, and my family didn’t sit around and work on math problems. But to a little kid who wanted to do well in school, it was a crushing defeat. In my immature brain, I didn’t understand the difference between intelligence and knowledge. So I assumed I was an idiot.
I may not have known multiplication that day, but when I came home and told Papaw about my heartbreak, he turned it into triumph. I learned multiplication and division before dinner. And for two years after that, my grandfather and I would practice increasingly complex math once a week, with an ice cream reward for solid performance. I would beat myself up when I didn’t understand a concept, and storm off, defeated. But after I’d pout for a few minutes, Papaw was always ready to go again. Mom was never much of a math person, but she took me to the public library before I could read, got me a library card, showed me how to use it, and always made sure I had access to kids’ books at home.
In other words, despite all of the environmental pressures from my neighborhood and community, I received a different message at home. And that just might have saved me.
Vance, J. D.. Hillbilly Elegy: A Memoir of a Family and Culture in Crisis (pp. 59-60). HarperCollins. Kindle Edition.
When Satya Nadella took over as boss of Microsoft in 2014, he drew on the work of Carol Dweck, a psychology professor at Stanford University, to push the firm’s culture in a new direction. Ms Dweck divides students into two camps: those who think that ability is innate and fixed (dampening motivation to learn) and those who believe that abilities can be improved through learning. This “growth mindset” is what the firm is trying to encourage. It has amended its performance-review criteria to include an appraisal of how employees have learned from others and then applied that knowledge. It has also set up an internal portal that integrates Lynda, the training provider bought by LinkedIn (which Microsoft itself is now buying).
This issue was mentioned as part of last night’s Roundtable presentation on millennials.
“In October, two professors, one at the University of Chicago and the other at the University of Memphis, released a paper in the American Sociological Review showing how tightly knit cultures can increase suicide risk among teenagers. The study focused on a homogenous, upper middle class community that experienced several suicide clusters and found that teenagers there faced intense pressure to succeed academically and conform to very narrowly defined standards of success.”
“Luthar has collected data from schools around the country, and in one study she asked kids to rank their parents’ top five values from a list of 10. Half of the values were linked to achievement (attend a good college, get good grades) and half were linked to character (be honest, be kind to others). She found that the higher the emphasis parents put on achievement-related goals, the more likely kids were to be troubled. `I tell parents to take a good hard look at themselves. What are your priorities, what are your values? It’s often not what we think they are. And it’s not just in what you say to your kids, it’s what you do. If I tell my son to not worry about grades, but I’m acting like my world will fall apart if I don’t get a certain grant, or a promotion, that sends them a different message about my values,’ Luthar said.”
Last night ar Roundtable (basically a monthly training meeting for adult leaders in Scouting) there was an interesting presentation on millennials.
I’d not heard the terms “bulldozer parent” or “snowplow” parent before last night.
“[The bulldozer] parent works to [obliterate] all obstacles in their child’s path to success . . . This type of parent is a particular favorite of college administrators.”